There aren’t many environments as filled with tension as an office. What with competitive egos looking to get ahead at every turn, there is a complete lack of decorum. Whether you like it or not, it’s part of the game and you have to learn how to play. Running to the teacher and snitching is only going to cause your reputation to go downhill, with your peers and the management.
It’s much better to defuse the situation. After all, a friend is more useful than an enemy as the latter can become very problematic. Here’s how to deal with it definitively.
Play the Part
Human nature causes us to blame others and not see our own faults. Without introspection, the issue is never going to go away because you will need to admit blame too. No one in their right mind will accept responsibility without a compromise. Sometimes, your anger is at fault, and other times it’s the competitive streak which runs through your body. Alternatively, you may have gone too far and don’t know how to turn back. Regardless, recognize your role and find a solution. For anger, a genuine Tongkat Ali extract works wonders. With competitiveness, it’s about perfecting a balance between your career and life. And, with overstepping the mark, a simple apology is effective.
Address It Head On
Letting tension linger allows it to escalate. Before anyone has said a word, both parties have slipped into a deep hatred. It’s remarkable what impression people can give off without opening their mouths. To stop it from getting this far, speak up as soon as you feel there is a problem. Take the person to one side and ask them outright: “Do we have a problem?” Either they’ll be truthful or lie, but either way, you will show them you’re strong and willing to work through the tension. Usually, this causes them to back off.
Avoid Water Cooler Gossip
Gossiping about an individual is only going to make them dislike you more. Although it’s difficult to hold your tongue, it’s the right move. Otherwise, you’ll be portrayed as the person who is dragging their name through the mud. As soon as a colleague brings their name up and says something negative, you should walk away. Just being part of the conversation will make you guilty by association. Wherever possible, avoid giving your opinion when not explicitly asked by a boss or manager.
Develop a Business Relationship
You may work through your feelings and still hate each other’s guts. Hey, it happens, but your work and theirs shouldn’t suffer. Instead, you need to find a way around the negativity. You need a relationship where you can communicate about work stuff without name calling. The key is not to let your feelings cloud your judgment of their work. Sure, they may be an a$$hole but they may also do great things with a cup of coffee and a PowerPoint presentation.
Finally, can you remember that work is one area of your life and not liking someone isn’t the end of the world?