Life is made to be shared with a loving partner. That’s why a lot of people have seized the opportunity given by the pandemic to evaluate their priorities. Going back to dating after a long period away from the dating scene can be daunting. It can be even more confusing when the last time you remember dating, you were still going to college.
Now, as an adult with your own job and your home, you know exactly what you want. Therefore, it’s essential to give yourself the chance to get to know your date and be comfortable with them before you can move to the next step, aka inviting them to your home.
Inviting a date to visit you at home is a big step in establishing your relationship. It’s an important part of building trust and letting them into your life. However, when you haven’t had a partner at home in a long time, it can be a nerve-racking experience.
Easy Dinner Rather Than a Romantic Meal
Nobody expects you to turn your kitchen into a professional restaurant. So, if you are inviting your date for dinner, don’t set the bar too high for yourself. You do want to put something yummy on the table, but that doesn’t mean you should prepare a five-course gourmet meal. In fact, if you are worried about cooking for someone else, you could turn it into a partner activity. Planning to prepare a salad together or a BBQ can be something fun that takes the awkwardness out of the situation. If you are considering drinks, you can save a bottle of wine and pack some ingredients in the pantry for a couple of easy cocktails. Nothing says cozy and stylish like a pair of cups for drinking Moscow mule, especially if you’ve freshly prepared it on the spot. Alternatively, if you prefer something more casual, why not plan a coffee date at home?
Ban the Meet My Family Awkwardness
If you live with your children, or you share parenting time with their other parent, you understandable want to introduce your date to the kids. But it can be tricky to just announce out of the blue that the new person in the house is part of your love life. A lot of separated parents choose to proceed by steps and remove the awkwardness of the introduction by inviting a few friends too. Your date could be introduced as one of your friends. This leaves everyone plenty of time to get to know each other without any pressure. It can be helpful to take things slowly in front of the kids to win their approval and make them comfortable.
The idea behind inviting your date to your home is to show them another side of your personality. Therefore, the last thing you should be doing is trying to redecorate your home to impress. Keep things clean and fresh. There’s no need to remove some of your favorite items or transform the interior to meet their expectations. Visiting your home is about getting to know the real you. Don’t change! Embrace it!
Is your date coming to your home for the first time? Stay true to yourself as you make things easy for you and them. There’s no need to start the day with unrealistic expectations. Keep things casual and simple whether it comes to introducing your date to the kids or to preparing a meal together.