Anyone who tells you that marriage is easy is lying. When you choose to commit your life to someone else, you have a lot of time for it to go wrong – and sometimes, it does. Even the best marriages have periods of total boredom, where the couple is sick of the sight of each other some days! It doesn’t mean that they love each other less, it just means that they have forgotten how to communicate, to connect.
With hard work, marriage can be successful. It doesn’t have to be a huge deal in the sense that “we connect or divorce”. No, but you do both have to put in the effort to reconnect and rediscover why you have such love for each other. We’ve put together several ways you can reconnect in your marriage, to make life easier for you both.
If there is one thing that couples who are drifting apart need to do, it’s touch more. The simple act of a hug, holding hands, a squeeze of the shoulders as you go past each other – it all matters. The happy hormones are easier to feel when you have been touched by someone you love. Hug more, make a point of holding each other. It can make a big difference in the way that you feel.
Find the Time Together That You Are Missing out On
It can be anything as simple as setting up Scrabble and a good word scramble to help. Game night, date night, movie night, no matter what night, you need to get together and just be in each other’s company. We love to procrastinate, but we shouldn’t when it comes to being in love. You need to make that time happen, though, so don’t skimp on it!
Take Ten Minutes
Every day, no matter what, put down your phones and tablets and take ten minutes to talk about your day. Let this be those ten minutes where you keep eye contact and no one in the world matters.
Say Thank You
Every now and then, a little gratitude goes a very long way. You can show some small signs of appreciation – even as simple as a post-it note with a thank you for doing the chores. Yes, both of you do the chores in the home, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t recognize the effort and thank your spouse for it. It can make a big difference to how they feel about you.
Start Listening to What Your Spouse Is Saying
There are plenty of distractions in life as it is, but this is someone that you promised your life to – if they’re talking to you, open your ears and pay attention!
Walk the Walk of the Paths You Once Took Together
Go back to where you had your first date and remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place. It doesn’t even have to be a place; the path you walk could be a song that you both loved to dance to. Put it on and dance – it makes a difference.