You are a strong, independent woman, a leader at work, and at home. You make decisions and implement plans all the time. You know what you want in your life, and you aren’t afraid to go out and get it. So why are you waiting around for your man to work up his nerve to pop the question?
Proposing isn’t just for men anymore. If you’re both ready to take the next step in your relationship, why should he be the one to get down on one knee? If he loves you and accepts you for the strong woman you are, he will be willing to be swept off his feet.
Just because you are initiating the next step in your relationship doesn’t mean you can’t be romantic and feminine. And, of course, you don’t want him to feel insecure or less masculine, either. But what feminine and masculine mean is changing in society and means something different to each individual and couple.
The important thing is to know yourself and know your partner. What will make you both feel comfortable and romanced? Do you want to take a knee, or does that feel weird and awkward? If you’re going to keep more traditional gender roles intact, you can even ask the question by prompting him to ask the question. Something as simple as a card reading “ask me” can honor historical norms while still allowing you to romance him.
As long as we are rewriting the rulebook for engagements, it is worth noting that nothing says there has to be a ring. You can get him an engagement watch, engagement cuff links, and engagement chain. For that matter, there is nothing that says you have to go with jewelry. Think about his interests and the things you love to do together. If you are into the outdoors, why not get him an engagement bike? Woodworking? How about an engagement lathe? The engagement gift is a beautiful place to be creative and playful.
That being said, an engagement ring is a beautiful tradition. You can honor that tradition by getting him a ring to give to you — perhaps it is in the card that says “ask me.” Or you can keep the tradition by getting rings to exchange or getting a ring for him. Of course, there isn’t much of a market (yet) for men’s engagement rings. Consider using a jeweler like Jacob Mercari. They do custom engagement rings, and you can design him something genuinely personal and as one of a kind as your relationship.
How and Where
Creative proposals have a long history, and now that we have the internet, brainstorming is easier than ever. There are thousands upon thousands of exciting, romantic, creative ideas out there. They are just waiting for you to come along and put your spin on them.
Here, again, the important thing is to know yourself and know your partner. Do you want this to be an intimate, romantic moment for just the two of you? Or do you want a big, public celebration with friends and family?
The logistics of your proposal is another terrific place to exercise creativity and playfulness. Think about what you love doing together, and find a way to tie that in. Remember, this is your special day as a couple. Celebrate the joy you take in one another and don’t forget to get lots of pictures!